I’ve compiled a list of the most common lesbian slang, terms, words, and phrases you’re most likely to hear within the lesbian community. Read up!
Popular Lesbian Terms
Andro/Androgynous: A “unisex” lesbian (neither Butch or Femme).
Baby Dyke: A young, newbie lesbian (can you say “drama”?).
Beard: a “beard” is a person of the opposite sex who marries or dates a closeted lesbian or gay person to cover up their homosexuality.
Bicurious: A typically straight girl who is somewhat intrigued by the idea of hooking up with another girl. She is ‘curious’ about her sexuality and interested in exploring relationships with girls.
Bisexual: A girl (or guy) who likes both girls and boys. For more information, click to read our article on the Top 4 Myths About Bisexuals.
Bulldyke: The most masculine of Butch lesbians.
Butch: A masculine lesbian.
Chapstick lesbian: A tomboy lesbian. Doesn’t quite fit the stud or femme description. Usually in between the two extremes. A lesbian who wears Chapstick rather than lipstick.
Dieseldyke: A super masculine lesbian who tends to drive trucks or other machinery.
Drag King: a drag king is a woman who dresses to look like a man, usually for performance. Drag kings are often lesbian, but not always.
Dyke: Another (less Femme) word for lesbian.
Gaydar: An intuitive ability to determine whether another person is gay or not. Gaydar relies heavily on social mannerisms and behaviors. The word derives from a combination of Gay + Radar.
Genderqueer: No, that’s not a typo. It’s a word that means you don’t limit your gender identity to the typical man/woman archetype. For instance, maybe you feel like you’re both man and woman, or maybe you feel like you’re neither. Either way, it’s all good.
Gold star: A lesbian who’s never been with a man (a sometimes rare but worthy find).
Femme: A feminine lesbian.
Hasbian: A hasbian is a woman who used to identify as a lesbian and date women, but is now dating men.
Lesbian: A women who is sexually and emotionally attracted to other women.
Lipstick lesbian: A lipstick lesbian is a woman who loves other women, but also loves her clothes and makeup and shoes. She tends to dress on the femmy side
Lipstick Mafia: Group of (generally Femme) lesbians who either 1) work to recruit new lesbians into the lesbian community or 2) form a close-knit protective circle around members of their group of friends. Move over, Sopranos!
Pillow Queen: A girl who likes to receive sexually (but refuses to give in return).
Poppa: An underage lesbian.
Stem: A stem is a lesbian who identifies somewhere between “stud” and “femme.”
Stud: a dominant lesbian, usually butch.
Queer: Once considered a derogatory word, some people use this term to be all inclusive of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people. Warning: Some people still find this word offensive.
U-haul Lesbian: A girl who tends to move in fairly quickly with those she dates.
What terms did I accidentally leave out? Let me know in the comment section below and I’ll be sure to include them in!