Let’s Face It
Penetration feels good. At least to those who enjoy penetration. Just because a woman wants to experience penetration does not mean she wants to have sex with a man. Actually, that is one of the biggest sexual myths about lesbians. Another myth is that the female partner who wears a dildo wants to “be” a man. Not true.
Think About It This Way
You’re a man. Either a man or a woman could perform oral sex on you. Although both might feel good, I bet there is one you would prefer to have sex with.
Sexuality and sexual attraction is about so much more than the pieces and parts that touch one another when we make out or make love. What makes someone lesbian, bisexual, gay or straight is still not understood.
Also, I should point out that sexual behavior is not the same as sexual orientation. Just because you let another man give you oral sex would not necessarily mean you are gay. Likewise, there are women who identify as lesbian who do sometimes have sex with men. Some do it for survival, some do it for pay and some do it because they enjoy it. Regardless, they are still lesbian.
Over To You
I know we all have those egotistic male friends (some genuinely curious) that ask these types of questions. Simply send this blog post their way. It should clear up a few questions.
If not, leave a comment and I’d be happy to answer them.
Rock on,
SLUSH
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I am glad that I found this site…
I honestly agree with this article, sex is just a feeling, it doesnt determine your orientation.
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Iam also confused i date men but really love women like kind o attracted to them go clubbing or were ever i look at women and i have made love to woman and i love it does that make me bio
My response is once you have sex with another woman…well, you realize why women are chosen. :)
Follow the rainbow to the candy shop
You got that right!!!
thank you for putting this article out to discuss this. I myself identify as a lesbian. I love sex, the sensuality and the emotional connection with being with another woman. I however have had sex with a man and enjoyed it for the act of sex and nothing more meaning no connection on any other level. because I have had sex with a man and enjoyed it I felt like I had to question my identity. this article said how I can still identify as a lesbian and enjoy having had sex with a man. I do not go looking for relationships or sex with any other men besides the one I’ve already been with. thank you again for your article and shining light on the fact I’m not the only lesbian like me.
Firstly a women who has sex with a man, survival, pay ok whatever and calls her self a lesbian, but if she enjoys it and still calls herself a lesbian?? please!! what a load of bullshit! Lesbian = women only , otherwise call yourself bisexual if you want. I believe that a lesbian can use a dildo, strap-on or what ever with her girlfriend and it would have nothing to do with men. A naked womens body on top of mine is sexy, we have vaginas so use them to their advantage. Some women dont like penetration some do, its their choice , doesnt mean they are into guys. Dildo or no dildo.
I think that a lesbian who enjoys having sex with a man would not and could not be considered a lesbian. Survival? Pay? Enjoyment? If someone is experiencing these feelings- good for them. However, labels come with boundaries and it is these boundaries that so many people strive to understand and become apart of. Gay. Straight. Bi. Lesbian. Trans. Queer. All of these labels have “guidelines” that people use to help understand themselves and others. To simply say that a lesbian who has sex with men because she enjoys it totally takes away the “lesbian” label that so many of us, for whatever reason, may need and strive for in order to get a better understanding and comfort with who we are as a person. Toys in the shape of a penis, agreed does not take away the lesbian way of sex. Toy are toys. Whether it is a hetero male in a straight relationship using anal beads or a dildo for his own pleasure…in no way labels him as being gay, but if he is recieving this pleasure from another male…then labels…boundaries and communication allows for the understanding of figuring out who this person may be, and in the end leads to an alternative way of life, love and sex. If a woman wants to have sex with a man and a woman, together or separately, that’s all well and great. That does not make that person a full on lesbian. Bisexual? Experimenting? Sure. But to re-title a label that has given so many people a better understanding is not fair nor makes sense to take away from one of the glbqt communities. Not meaning to offend anyone, but it seems so easy for others to change these labels…definitions…and people, to fall into a category that has already been created, shaped and agreed on by our community.
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wellll ithink that its stupid because if a girl is a lesbian she should do her own kind she shouldnt be using a dildo like common dildos arent penises but their are shape like one? and look like one its juust made of rubber.
I really appreciate the people who understand that sexual orientation isn’t soley based on sexual attraction. I realized due to my sexual nature I may have sex with a man even though I identify as lesbian. I’ve never been emotionally connected to a man nor mentally connected to a man in my entire life… Never will be. But sexually, I’m not so sure. Physical actions, to me, require so much less effort than emotional ones and to me its just as easy to find oneself in bed with a man as it is going to the gym… (bad anology? Probably). I think you can catch my drift though. In my life I’ve only been with a man once, an unplanned threesome that totally wasn’t my idea but the one of my oversexed bisexual lover. She, of course, has both emotional and physical attraction to men and women. Oh, I’m digressing, back to it. Although I didn’t enjoy the experience (too much jealousy). The thought of being with a man and woman together still turns me on… And even with just a man turns me on too. With just a woman? DRIVES ME INSANE! Hmm… I hope my rant made sense.
Dear Slush
I’m a male and am new to the pc world. I’ve sent e-mails to what I though was a lesbians
address and never got answers. I’m very curious obout lesbian girls, the reason being I have
a couple girls that I like very much and my problen is I don’t what to say when Im around
them I don’t want to be crude and say something that would upset them, I though if I could
contact you and talk about it,I would be very thankful.
Thank You
Pat
PS
my e-mail is
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The first two answers are right. Although I have never tiewtrn a homosexual intercourse scene, I do not disapprove, but being at a slight disadvantage by not knowing, I would say lead up to, let the reader know it is going to happen and stop there. The same thing works for hetero love scenes, and to me it makes it seem more personal and loving than if you describe the act for everyone to be a part of.
This is an excellent answer to that question. My friend and i just recently had a chat about that and she was wondering the answer to that question. What I’m confused about and would want to know if why if your a lesbian you feel a need to dress and look like a man? I understand there are different types of lesbians including butch but why is you like women do you need to look like a man? If you have an answer that’d be awesome! Thanks
@Magick Prior: Not sure about that ’cause being a lesbian is about the person you’ll love and live with…I think sex hasn’t to do anything with sexual orientation. If you have sex with man and enjoy, but don’t want to live with and ain’t gonna love them is not making you a bisexual…Sex and feels are 2 different things. That’s why alot of girls says they’re bisexual because they had sex with a girl but they clearly know they never gonna have a lesbian relation. These are only straight. It’s only sexual. Bisexual is about sex AND feels for both man and woman.
And its not our fault that the sex industry decided to shape most ‘toys’ to look like male genitals!!
Also the boys bits don’t vibrate!!
I love this fuckn post its all me cuz my fam says im confused wit wat i want bcuz i love gurls n every way but still go out wit guys but no sex involve wat so ever wit thm but wit grls i just dont get it im confused????